One of the biggest keys to your online dating success is your profile. The profile is how online dating sites present you in search results. Think of your profile as your public ‘face.’ What you include...
Top tips for the perfect senior dating profile
Online dating sites for senior singles come in many shapes and sizes. Some are simple swiping apps you can use from mobile. Others have in-depth compatibility quizzes and matchmaking features. Plenty of them come with community extras to help you make friends, as well as find dates. But what they almost all have in common is the dating profile. To make sure you make the absolute best first impression, whatever kind of site you choose, here are our top tips for a perfect mature dating profile.
Sites like match.com let you include a headline or an introduction where you can say in one clear sentence what you’re looking for and who you are. This can feel daunting, as many mature singles would like to be able to say a whole lot more than can be squeezed into an introduction box.
One good way to build a great introduction is to imagine you were walking up to someone in real life. How would you introduce yourself? It’s likely that you would just say hi, and ask them a question. That’s an option here! Go ahead, and ask anyone reading to tell you their favourite travel destination, or a skill they’ve always wished they could learn.
Because you’re speaking to lots of singles at once, you might want to narrow down the types of people you want replies from. Think about character and personality rather than specific characteristics. For example, rather than saying you want someone who goes to the gym, talk about looking for an active partner.
If you’re open to possibilities and don’t want to narrow down the search too soon, try including an introduction which makes people laugh or intrigues them. Do you have an interesting fact about yourself, or a joke which always slays people? Give some of the story up front and encourage people to ask you for the rest via private message.
It can be easy to fall into the pitfall of thinking you’re being specific on your dating profile, when actually, the reader is none the wiser about who you are. If you choose a website like EliteSingles there is a thorough personality test when you sign up. This should help you match with likeminded mature singles who are similar enough, and different in the ways which work for you. Many sites don’t use compatibility tests though, and need you to open up about your likes and dislikes in your dating profile.
Think about a profile which says they love food. Do they love eating out, or cooking? Traditional foods, or foreign cuisine? Health food, or the greasier the better?
The same is true with most broad examples given online. If you write in your profile that you love having a good time, that could be anything at all, from clubbing and bars to a quiet night in with a movie. Travel might mean white water rafting, or it could mean browsing museums in Europe. Always give a few examples to explain what you enjoy. One example could be, “I love food! I enjoy both dining out (my favourite is Thai) and cooking. I just started an Indian cooking course, I’d love to find someone who is adventurous at trying new culinary flavours and restaurants with me.”
Say No to Negativity
There’s nothing which is more of a turn off than reading through a whining or negative profile. Too many singles think that their dating profile is the place to talk about past relationships. We’re all mature singles here, and chances are this is our second or third time around in terms of looking for love. The ‘previous relationships talk’ is for date number 3 or beyond, not for before you’ve even had a conversation via instant chat.
If you broadcast in your profile that you don’t want any high maintenance women or arrogant men writing to you, you’re focussing on what you don’t want when you should be doing the opposite. Talk about how you want an equal relationship with a loving woman, or how you want a kind man who is quietly confident, and you get the same point across - without the bitter taste.
Photos are arguably the most important element of your profile. They are definitely what singles will see first and foremost when they are browsing for a date. On a site like MatureLove, you can play the Encounters game, where you are met with full size profile photos to browse through. At first this is all the information you have, and will help you decide whether you want to get to know someone better or not.
Make sure your photo is clear, flattering, and accurate. This means that you shouldn’t be posting photos of yourself from more than 5 years (or 10lbs!) ago. If your profile says you are a gym bunny, then a photo of you with a tub of ice cream on the sofa may be confusing to see, and create a feeling of dishonesty around your profile. Don’t forget to point out which one you are if you decide to include a photo of yourself with your friends or family.
I would recommend you choose 3 or 4 photos at least. This way people know you aren’t just choosing the most flattering photo of yourself that you have, and you can show a more complete story about yourself. Try one headshot, one full-length image, one with friends or family and one doing a hobby or interest that you love. Most of all, don’t forget to smile! Studies have shown that 96% of people would prefer to see a sunny smile than a sexy pout.
If you’re ready to meet someone special, our top senior dating sites are ready to help you get there! Try our comparison chart to get started.