3 Steps to Take Before You Write Off Dating Forever
You know how the expression goes, “if at first you don’t succeed meet the love of your life, try try again." Alright, so we may have twisted that a little, but the point is, online dating is full of trial and errors. That is, until you meet the one person who...
You know how the expression goes, “if at first you don’t
succeed meet the love of your life, try try again.”
Alright, so we may have twisted that a little, but the point is, online dating is full of trial and errors. That is, until you meet the one person who makes it feel less monotonous, and if more and more people are meeting their partners online, you can too.
Check out our favorite tips which can hopefully increase your success and lead to a more enjoyable experience.
1. Think About Your Approach
Before subscribing to a dating site, explore some profiles and see if the candidates catch your attention. You’ll get a feel for who’s out there, and you’ll either feel excited about the prospects before you even message someone, or, you’ll realize that maybe another site has more of what you’re looking for.
eharmony for instance, makes it easy to explore their database of eligible individuals looking for a serious relationship.
Once you’ve picked your site(s), consider your first move. Think about your approach like a compliment; which ones are you most likely to remember the longest? A “you’re great,” or something more personal, such as “your thoughtfulness is what makes you so special.”
The more tailored your compliments, the more memorable and meaningful they’ll feel to the recipient.
The same goes for your approach. When you message someone who caught your eye, try to make your message as personable as possible.
Give them a real glimpse into who you are and make them feel special. Find a way to connect with them right from the beginning. Point out something you have in common and show them there’s a reason you’re reaching out (aside from their stunning photo).
If you’re unsure how to strike up a conversation, check out Zoosk’s blog for some insights and helpful advice before you send a message on their website.
2. Tap Into Your Patience
Online dating is a process, and chances are, it will take more than a date or two to find the Jim to your Pam (or vice versa)—but that doesn’t mean it’s not going to happen.
The more you put yourself out there, the bigger the chances of finding your match.
Pick potential partners who share some of your interests, someone you could connect with on a deeper level. This may narrow down your pool a little bit, but reaching out to those with the greatest potential will save you time in the long run.
And while you’re exploring your options, it’s always a good idea to focus on the things that make you happy and spend time with those you care about the most.
Invest in yourself and the life you’ve built or are building, and enjoy it! When that someone does come around, they’ll be the perfect addition to your already full life.
3. (Re)Consider Your Attitude
To get positive results, you need to be in a positive headspace. Get rid of any unrealistic expectations of the process and try and stay in the moment. Go into the date with few expectations and one aim; to have a good time and be yourself.
Every date is an opportunity to get to know yourself even better.
Yes, even those bad dates can have a silver lining, or at least result in a hilarious story. Chances are, your date--whether you met them through Zoosk or eharmony--may have some funny anecdotes of their own to share.
Try and stay patient, focus on what makes you the happiest, and above all, have fun with the process.
One last piece of advice before you go: Head to a site like Zoosk, whose smart matching and ease of use just might be the key to making online dating work for you.